Smut Lovers Deserve Safe Spaces Too: Why Kink-Informed Therapy Matters

If you’ve ever found yourself blushing at a well-written spicy scene—or proudly sorting your bookshelf by heat level—then you know that erotic fiction isn’t just fun. It’s freeing. It’s validating. Sometimes, it even helps us understand parts of ourselves we didn’t have language for yet.

Whether you're into dark romance, monster smut, slow burns, or high-heat power dynamics, you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not weird.

But despite the growing popularity of these books and communities, many readers still feel judged or misunderstood, especially when it comes to talking about their desires in therapy.

Here's the truth: Loving smut, exploring kink, or being curious about BDSM doesn't mean something is wrong with you. But if you’ve ever tried to talk about these things in therapy and been met with blank stares—or worse, subtle shame—you know how important it is to find someone who gets it.

That’s where kink-informed therapy comes in. Hello! My name is Christina, Registered Social Worker [RSW] and we are BIG admirers of spicy books here at Anderson Dupuis Wellness [ADW].

Myself & a couple others on our team at ADW had a conversation recently about the importance of therapists understanding "monsters and morally grey men" aren’t the problem -- shame, isolation, and judgment are.

So, we thought, "lets put together a blog about it" and let you know that we're here -- let's rewrite your story together.

So, What Is Kink-Informed Therapy?

Kink-informed therapy means working with a therapist who is educated about and affirming of kink, BDSM, and non-traditional relationship styles. It means you don’t have to explain what a "D/s dynamic" is, or why consensual non-consent isn’t the same as trauma. It means your therapist understands the difference between fantasy and pathology.

In short, it means you get to bring all of yourself into the room—including the parts you’ve discovered between the pages of your favorite spicy books.

Who Is This For?

• People exploring kink or power exchange dynamics

• Readers or writers of erotic fiction who want to talk about desire without shame

• Anyone navigating feelings of guilt, confusion, or judgment about what turns them on

• Folks in ethical non-monogamy or polyamorous relationships

• People healing from trauma who want kink-affirming support

  
  

What You Won’t Get from Me:

❌ A lecture on what’s “healthy” based on outdated norms ❌ Pathologizing your fantasies ❌ Side-eyes when you mention the morally gray villain you’d let ruin you

What You Will Get:

✅ A safe, affirming space to explore your identity ✅ Tools for navigating desire, boundaries, and relationships ✅ Support with anxiety, trauma, or life transitions—with no need to censor yourself ✅ A therapist who respects consent, understands kink, and knows the difference between what’s therapeutic and what’s just hot fiction

You Deserve Therapy That Honours Your Whole Self

If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide parts of yourself in therapy, I want you to know: you don’t have to do that here.

Whether you're working through relationship challenges, healing past wounds, or just want a therapist who won't blink at your Kindle history—you're welcome here, exactly as you are.

💬 Ready to connect? Book a free consultation by emailing admin@andersondupuis.com

📍 Offering virtual sessions | LGBTQIA+ affirming | Kink- and sex-positive

You’ve read enough stories where the heroine has to hide her desires. This isn’t one of them. Let’s write a new chapter—one where you get to be seen, heard, and supported.

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Remember to visit our friends at Pages of Passion in downtown Saskatoon (female- and locally owned) for all your spicy book needs.   

https://pagesofpassion.ca/